Wrong. That city girl you are dating that bounces around is Elaine Benes from Seinfeld.
|The archetype of a generation|
This type that you read about often in forums is not Carrie Bradshaw (or Charlotte, the good, sexy one always looking for a husband). Carrie had the face of a shoe but was a fashionista who lived the glam life with female friends and eventually landed her Mr. Big for the happy ending. Carrie Bradshaw was 20s and 30s. Carrie Bradshaw and her compadres are the upscale versions of the Girls crew. The 30-somethings that seem "wife material" become "What is she doing?" head scratchers and fit that description above are mimicking the life path of Elaine Benes.
Let's run through Elaine's personality and background...
- From the suburbs but moved to NYC for her career and city life
- 30s and into her 40s on the show
- Can get guys, but can't keep guys
- Funny, "one of the guys"
- Educated (Tufts was her safe school)
- Has what sound like cool jobs but are not cool
- Limited female friends, frenemies (O'Henry bar heiress), but a circle of guy friends
- Sarcastic, bit of a ball buster
- Would get physical with guys (Get out >chest shove<, picks fights)
- Hangs with her ex that she is in love with
- Foul mouthed
- Sex is a bit of sport for her. Not a romantic girl.
- Never see her cook
- Loves bossing people around yet has no authority
- Considers 95% of the population undateable
- Will date guys who are bad news just because of the tingles
What we criticize now for being a widespread dating type and social life failure was already widespread enough to be represented in a character on television 25 years ago. People had to identify Elaine as a type, consider her funny yet also sympathetic. Sex and the City did poison a generation of women who watched it, but the type was already there in Elaine. Elaine is a better fit too because she is cute/pretty but presented in a normal attractive woman way, not the glam crap that SaTC did with the leads. In all honesty, women probably started carrying water bottles around with them in cities due to Elaine.
We see this elsewhere. The concept of childless SWPLs too self indulgent to be bothered by having children was already widespread enough in the 1980s to be called DINKs. These types have just become more common, more encouraged and higher status. TIME magazine does an article on the increasing choice of childless couples and there is no tsk-tsking, only encouragement. Last I checked, our feminist filtered media pushes the careerism lifestyle, nothing traditional. These trends are multigenerational now and have moved downstream.
The key to the Elaine role being more accurate instead of the Carrie Bradshaw role is the ending, too. These modern young women think they will land their Mr. Big. It is not going to happen. It did not happen for Elaine. These women are Elaine, especially that cute 32 year old with no time to get married but always looking. She is most likely going to end up alone, working for an oddball boss, giving up on fulfillment and still in love with the guy she should have married ten years ago but was too stupid to make it work.
|8/10 Would Bang. Aged very well.|