Government marriage is a minefield. Divorce theft is real, but maybe not as prevalent with how many more women are college graduates with decent jobs now. That affects child support, too. She gets the kids, but if she was making more than you, you won't be kicking cash her way. I know a guy who got divorced, no kids, he tricked his ex into "getting" the house, but there was no alimony, so she had to sell the house and she ended up bringing cash to closing just to dump it. Marriage takes some effort and so does being single. Is being single a never-ending stream of babes and awesome nights? It can be, but it isn't. Guys have hot streaks and cold streaks. Shucks, they also have to find the time to write up their nights out with autistic detail, vacation, tweet, read up all their fellow PUA and Game blogs, workout, eat, sleep, shop for clothes, shop for jewelry, juicing, and maybe hair removal. I don't know. What's the latest fad that
I have single friends who kill it. They do this without reading game blogs since they're attractive guys who make good money; some are even naturally funny and witty. Sex is pretty easy in America. Sex with an attractive woman is easy if you're attractive and make some bank. It's easy if naturally charismatic. Just don't say something ridiculously stupid or "creepy". Even then, if you're good looking enough or rich enough, you can overcome creepy. Money really is an entryway to much higher quality women, and women will rationalize anything for a man with money (status).
The family vs. non-family split is more pronounced as I age. Those of us with kids look at the childless and wonder what the fuck they are doing with their lives. We all have similar jobs and activities. Why aren't our single, childless friends writing books (like the Captain, bravo for him), painting awesome works of art or running a charity? In essence, doing the stuff people talk about at age 19 but "family" gets in the way. Must be the cat gif distractions keeping them from writing the Great American Novel. I suspect a growing factor is people so in love with themselves they can't be bothered to have kids or productive passions.
Marriage and family life are not always awesome, but they often are fun. Here's a secret. My kids are in bed by 7:30pm. After that, my wife and I get to behave in the house like we did without kids. It's our time. When do you think I research + write these blog posts? [ed: at work] I'm lucky. I live a blessed life. If you can game well enough to have cute, slender women for relationships in 21st Century America, you can find a cute, slender wife. That pool of competitive single women that take care of themselves usually transforms into the pool of competitive women who turn neighborhood BBQs and Halloween parties into Sexiest MILF Pageants. MILFs wear horizontal striped tank tops to show off their breasts while their kids are off playing in the bouncey house. Another fave is the "Bikini top + white shorts" look.
Divorce can travel like a virus and so can the "post-divorce cat accumulation, loneliness" stories. Your wife doesn't want to become a cat lady. If you can't shake the cad behavior, you can game your wife and have the occasional affair. Shhhhh, that is getting far easier in today's world with technology, single Yoga chicks and the growing pool of women with abandonment-daddy issues. Just buy a throwaway phone where you don't have to give them your name (Thanks AT&T!). If you're an insecure paranoid, you could neg your wife hard, "yeah brah, I negged her so hard she needed to go on Paxil and see a counselor, but she won't be cheating!"
The payoff we family types hope for is the marriage of our grandparents' generation. Devotion, love and companionship for the highs and lows. People dying of broken hearts months or weeks after their spouse dies. Tucked in some of those RooshVForum threads are Internet playas posting about wanting a thin 7 who can cook, screw and love them. I'm sure in the retirement home we'll all wish for more frequent visits, but I'm not going to sit around listening to some lame fucking story about a PUA bagging a hardbody 9 in 2003. If my grandkids visit and ask who that is rambling pick up stories, I'll say, "Some lonely fucker stuck remember when-ing about some one night stand... now where's my donuts?"
There is risk. What if no one visits, what if my wife leaves me, what if my kids grow to hate me? All life is a risk-reward trade off. People who speak of the lack of tangible benefits to having kids are acting like ant people or "what's in it for me" rootless cosmopolitans. Those risks are out there, but besides tax benefits, here's my reward. Every night I come home from work, my kids act like it's the Super Bowl. My kids' laughs are infectious. I won't forget snow adventures with my son or the day my daughter started dancing to music. My wife's pretty awesome too, but I'm just a chump because I could be cuckolded, divorced and have everything ripped away at any moment. Oh noes! I know single me would do okay. I've learned attractive, successful married guys usually have one single woman developing feelings for them every 18-24 months at work.
Please keep walking down your path of single, childless living. Be awesome at it! Be the best! You'll never hear criticism from me. I was raised with multiple male role models who lived differently and made me feel a part of a long tradition and entrusted me to carry on said tradition. That's not everyone's youth, not everyone's family, nor everyone's goal. "The only wealth in this world is children," Michael Corleone in Godfather 3. Feels right. I won't waste tweets describing the PUA crowd as hedonistic, selfish vampires, leeching off of society, damaging whatever you touch. Neither will I post statistics about suicide, shorter life spans, depression and whatnot for single, childless people. Those guys must realize people with natural gifts for conversation and charisma find the technical, autistic approach to women comical and a touch on the pathetic loser side? We all choose different paths. I bet the guy in that photo in the link would not trade your flings for what he has with his kid. His choice. "I bet the photo is staged and the models don't know each other," maybe, and all PUA sites are 100% truth. Please, whatever you do, don't half ass your one life.