The recent WSJ article on Mr. Right being hard to find, and the subsequent 'me too' NY Times articles, is the absolute best example of NY media creating new 'problems' for upper class overeducated white women in NYC. Oh stop the presses, some overeducated white women can't get married by age 35. Oh lordy!
This is not a problem....
1. This is secretly a vehicle for women to brag about themselves. It's called whine bragging. Get used to it as the world has become such a calm place we now have to find ways to bitch about the good things. See this entry on Ann Althouse's blog about whine bragging about a marriage.
2. Women, wake up, men have been doing this for years. How come no one ever wrote this article when men were married 'down' to women without college degrees? Maybe they can start doing what men did and look for healthy genes and charming partners. Maybe they can marry a guy who doesnt make as much money as them or have multiple degrees and fuckin' live with that. Oh the horror!
3. Get over yourself. Seriously, you're probably not attractive, no matter what the WSJ or NY Times says. They ripped on Christina Hendricks.
4. This is the downside of feminism. Sorry, secretly men now get all the milk for free thanks to sexual liberation and we do not have to worry about being the primary breadwinner. "It's OK to come out boys, we won!"
5. This is the latest thing the NY media makes a fuss about when they do not want to talk about real people problems. Last year, it was talking about people making 100K annually seeing their salaries reduced or god forbid their cancellation of NY Knicks season tickets.
6. This feeds into the women are not truly complete without a Mr Right.
7. Intelligence is overrated in a partner, and a college degree does not signify intelligent.
If it is here's some solutions...
1. Get over yourself
2. Maybe on a date talk about the world and your interests, not a list of your accomplishments.
3. Maybe look for what is inside a person. After all, college degrees are given out like pez now. With the incidence on mental disorders at my college, I am thankful i did not marry one of those genius Scarsdale girls.
4. Maybe when you spent 3-4 years in grad school and broke up with that great guy because you didnt have time for him but he was so right, maybe, just maybe, that guy was the mr right for you. I'm not typing this as a guy dumped because someone wanted to set up a free clinic in sub-saharan africa by age 30 when she was 20, wait yes I am. $100 says she's still single and her biological clock is loudly ticking.
5. Mr or Mrs Right is a romanticized concept that didn't and doesn't really exist. Consider how long arranged marriages lasted in even the Western world. In the 1890s, some people started to marry for this thing called love. Drop it. It feeds into our obsession will perfection.
6. Get over yourself. Your bourgeois concerns about Mr Right make me laugh. The world is a dangerous, tough place where many people have big, daily problems. You, Ms Great Accomplishment Life, finding Mr Right is waaaaaaay down the priority list.
Dr Helen has a different take on this. Ann Althouse has been citing this as well here, here and here.